Black tie optional is not about being the most dramatic person in the room
The Oxford Dictionary defines it as neat, conventional, yet relatively informal in style, especially as worn to conform to a particular dress code
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[22] The mourning dress on the right was worn by Queen Victoria, "it shows the traditional touches of mourning attire, which she wore from the death of her husband, Prince Albert (18191861), until her own death." [23] Norms for mourning Manners and Rules of Good Society, or, Solecisms to be Avoided (London, Frederick Warne & Co., 1887) gives clear instructions, such as the following: [24] The complexity of these etiquette rules extends to specific mourning periods and attire for siblings, step-parents, aunts and uncles distinguished by blood and by marriage, nieces, nephews, first and second cousins, children, infants, and "connections" (who were entitled to ordinary mourning for a period of "13 weeks, depending on level of intimacy")